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However, they have been pretty vocal John had met Kelsey 'Beelzebub' in a psychology chat room, had only heard her voice once and had never video chatted. Two others from the same chat room, named Ellie and Adam, were in a similar relationship, and had also never met.
One minute you’re high on the warmth of their attention, the next minute you’re frozen out and left wondering what happened. Whether you call it push/pull, on/off, or hot and cold, the end result is the same. Whether done consciously or unconsciously, this type of behavior activates longing and pursuit. If we don’t understand the game of hot and cold, we can find ourselves pulled into a drama of confusion. Understanding this type of behavior is crucial even for those of you committed to not playing games.
Behavioral extremes indicate a power play is being employed. Once we have the ability to see hot and cold for what it is, we’re less likely to suffer its negative effects.
It’s long been the rule that when dating someone whose behavior is marked by hot and cold reactivity, you’re standing on shaky ground.
This is the core thinking of the partner who initiates hot/cold, and serves as their safety net to vulnerability. Because relationship uncertainty makes human beings yearn for stability.
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